Uhg…Why does every woman (well, except for like 2…) I know take her husband’s name when she gets married? The thing is…I ask why and they never really do give me an answer. This is especially true of the people I knew when I was homeschooled. But I know the answer. Most of them have just grown up thinking that’s the way it is and have never considered that they can keep their own name, or that their husband can take theirs. I get that some people legitimately make the age-old decision to take the guy’s name, but it shouldn’t just be the default. It shouldn’t just be accepted as some kind of inevitability. Why should it be expected that a woman surrenders her identity without question or consideration in a heterosexual marriage? Why don’t they ever consider other options?
Again, I’m not trying to judge anyone who makes that choice….I’m just a little sad that it seems to be the uncontested default. Even though it’s 2014. Also I’m biased because every morning I wake up and wonder why so-and-so unfriended me and then I realized she didn’t…she just casually surrendered her identity to tradition and I had to hunt to find the new her…..